What Excellent Mentors Do: Matters of Skill Choose Proteges Selectively Know Your Proteges Expect Excellence (and Nothing Else) Affirm, Affirm, Affirm, and Then Affirm Some More Provide Sponsorship Be a Teacher and a Coach Encourage and Support Offer Counsel in Difficult Times Protect When Necessary Stimulate Growth with Challenging Assignments Give Proteges Exposure and Promote Their Visibility Nurture Creativity Provide CorrectionEven When Painful Narrate Growth and Development Self-disclose When Appropriate Accept Increasing Friendship and Mutuality Teach Faceting Be An Intentional Model Display Dependability Traits of Excellent Mentors: Matters of Style and Personality Exude Warmth Listen Actively Show Unconditional Regard Tolerate Idealization Embrace Humor Do Not Expect Perfection Attend to Interpersonal Cues Be Trustworthy Respect Values Do Not Stoop to Jealousy Arranging the Mentor-Proteg ̌Relationship: Matters of Beginning Carefully Consider the "Match" Clarify Expectations
Define Relationship Boundaries
Consider Protégé Relationship Style
Describe Potential Benefits and Risks
Be Sensitive to Race and Ethnicity
Plan for Change at the Outset
Schedule Periodic Reviews or Evaluations
Knowing Thyself as a Mentor: Matters of Integrity
Consider the Consequences of Being a Mentor
Make Sure You are Competent
Hold Yourself Accountable
Respect the Power of Attraction
Accept the Burden of Power
When Things Go Wrong: Matters of Restoration
Dispute Your Irrational Thinking
Welcoming Change and Saying Goodbye: Matters of Closure
Welcome Change and Growth
Find Helpful Ways to Say Goodbye
