Introduction: Welcome to the Eighteen-Year Spiritual Retreat You Never Signed Up For

Part 1: Your Overwhelming Assignment. Is Your Child a Spicy One? ; Name the Hard So It Can Get Better ; Are You Also a Spicy One? ; What Do You Hope for Your Kid? ; Are You a Good Enough Mom? ; Listen to Your Inner Child

Part 2: Embrace a Kind Parenting Posture. Connect Rather Than Control ; Find Your Inner Royalty ; Aim for Curiosity and Delight ; Speak Words of Warmth, Not War ; Sprinkle In Rhythm ; Teaching Life Skills to a Hellion

Part 3: Be the Calm One in the Room. Stop Yelling: Co-Regulation and the Conscious Pause ; Identify Your Inner Mean Girl ; Unfriend Your Inner Mean Girl ; Welcome Everyone's Big Feelings by Honoring the Body ; Meltdown Magic: What to Do in a Tantrum ; When Things Get Violent

Part 4: Find Your Firm to Keep Away Burnout. Bonus Chapter Access: Judgment from Others ; Disciplining the Spicy One ; Protect the Sibling ; When Your Co-Parent is Triggered by the Spicy One ; Healing Apologies

Conclusion: Inspiration for the Road

Appendix: Profiles of 9 Inner Mean Girls.